Getting By With A Little Help From Mr. K

Today I managed to get a nice even gap in the corset, but it was not on my own. After hearing me gasping and stomping my feet in frustration…and a few whines I’m sure…Mr. K relented and helped me even out the gap. He still won’t tighten me at all, but I’m grateful for the small amount of help, which actually isn’t so small because it makes a world of difference, not just aesthetically, but also in comfort. The gap may not look that much smaller, but I assure you that it FEELS smaller, hehe.


The corset feels tighter, and feels very comfortable. The lacing protector was giving me some trouble, but I flattened it under the weight of a few books and a 17 inch laptop (are those really meant to be portable?). The results are encouraging, because I’m not having any trouble with lumps or bumps, which end up being painful little knots after a few hours of wear. I feel like I could go tighter now after wearing for a few hours, but I’m afraid to try to get the gap smaller without Mr. K’s help. The steels are so flimsy that the minute I get my finger under one of the lace Xs’ it balloons out above it and then I have a hell of a time evening out again. I will pull the laces down at the bottom only to see the gap at the very top of the corset closing. Is there anyone out there that can tell me how to prevent this from happening? Any advice on getting a smooth and even gap? Because of course, the more even the gap, the more comfortable and tighter you can wear the corset. In any case, I have taken a few pictures of the more evened out gap as well as hopefully a better look at the length of this corset which really is quite long at the back, covering a good half of my bottom.
So, until next time, wish me luck on closing the gap,

~)x(~ KK

NOTE:
Since my last post I have discovered that these blog posts are being viewed by the very knowledgeable Mr. K. I say this to amend my previous comment about him possibly not being as knowledgeable as I suspected. He is; he just prefers to not discuss the subject of corsets with me and would like to lace a woman, sadly just not me. So it is up to me to discover whatever information I can on my own. I am always grateful for any information readers would like to share either in comments or private mails. And a thank you to “John” for your thoughts on shoulder straps. I hope to make that part of my next corset. I also loved your idea for crotch straps, which I had thought of as well, but I suspect that would require a fitting in person, and if I go in person, I think I’m going to want to go all the way and get an overbust…but that is a topic best left for another post.

The Good The Bad & The Ugly: Pitfalls of Lacing Your Own Corset

I haven’t been posting lately because it is Easter break, which means we have had a full house here and I don’t get much time to write, take pictures, etc. Well, I could, but I am the sort of person who likes a solitary environment to get my thoughts out in written form. It’s also a little embarrassing to take photos of my corset with children running around the house. I did take some pictures the other day of a slightly tighter corset, though when I looked at the pictures I debated whether to post them because they look really bad. However, I have decided to post them so that you can see the mishaps as well as the successes. I have made the unfortunate discovery that Doris did not but double boning in the back on either side of the grommets. This makes the corset not nearly stiff enough and it just collapses under the smallest unevenness in pressure. So, as can be seen in some of the photos, the corset bulges out in odd ways and the dreaded box butt is starting to occur. The frustration that the flimsy back steels cause is such that I gave up for a couple of days. I am starting to think that a corset of this length cannot be properly laced by one’s self…or at least not this self. The odd bulging is also causing my lacing protector to rumple in an unattractive way which keeps it askew…as can also be seen in the photos…again. Of course, I can’t give up completely because now that I have been wearing a corset daily for more than 6 years, my back muscles have atrophied to the point that it is actually painful to be out of my corset for too long. I am afraid I will need to send this back to Doris for stronger steels at the back, or I will have to open the channels myself, which I hate to do on a brand new corset, but depending on how much she charges, I may have to because something tells me that Mr. K won’t be willing to help in this department, though he does surprise me from time to time. I never know what to expect there, and have given up trying. So to all of you anonymous people that are reading this, keep your fingers crossed for me!
KK

A Little Tighter...

It is certainly interesting now that I am doing pictures every time I put on the new corset, because I can see what I’m getting wrong. You can see that the gap is a little smaller, but not a lot. I am not the corset “expert” that my husband is, but from what I understand, you are not supposed to break in a corset too fast. Back when Mr. K used to care about such things, he told me that I should only wear the corset for a short time for the first time and only lace it just a bit, and then just a little more the second time, gradually increasing the compression and the duration in the corset each time. So yesterday I only spent about 3 hours in my corset. Today I have spent about twice that and still wear it as I write. I spent a wonderful hour just laying on my bed savoring the feeling of the corset. I know this is where people probably expect me to make comments about discomfort or tightness, but to me the feeling is almost narcotic. The feeling of compression is one that I enjoy immensely and if the corset is made well, the tightening can be a really positive experience. I can understand now how women in the Victorian era might have gotten a little addicted to tight-lacing. There is definitely an urge to close the gap and to see how small I can make my waist. Today I can feel that it is tighter, and better…but in the pictures I see the protector is askew and I am not lacing evenly down the center, which I will strive to do better tomorrow…and of course I will post the results. I hope to be sleeping in my corset by the weekend. That will be lovely. The smell of the leather when it begins to warm from the heat of my body is so wonderful I am almost tempted to not wear perfume…and for me that is a big deal, as I LOVE perfume! In fact I am pining for a bottle of Profumum Fiore di Ambre right now, but of course the price is half a corset, so it gives me serious pause. Maybe I will stick with some nice Mitsouko. Until tomorrow…

A New Corset From Doris!

Well today I got a new corset finally. Actually, I didn't JUST get it. My husband who I will refer to as Mr. K, ordered it several months ago and we were on a waiting list for several months before that. I almost didn't get it because of our constant disagreement, but by some miracle, he finally relented. Now if I can only talk him into a bra that doesn't look like a frankenstein creation due to the repairs!
So after a lot of hinting and downright complaining (both of us!) Mr. K agreed to get one made in leather, although for this corset he had absolutely zero to do with it other than paying the corsetiere. This was a difficult process because the corsetiere's native language is German. Mr. K speaks German; I do not. He has made all of the decisions on my corsets since we started dating. The reason he is not involved this time is to punish me, as this was our main shared interest and it is a very effective way of completely shutting me out. So naturally I don't feel good about it, but I'm plugging along. I am ill today, so I am not trying it on now because I want to be fresh (read: not sweaty from sickness) when I put it on the first time. Or at least this is what I think now, my curiousity may get the better of me and I may have it on by the end of the day. I am also hoping to put it on at a time when he might muster just the smallest amount of enthusiasm, but I know that might be a cold day in hell at this point.
I am posting pictures of the corset spread out without laces because as usual she sent it with only enough lace to open it about an inch and put it on...now I wont go into why that is ridiculous, but trust me it is.